Certainties in life ~ is there such thing?

Just the other day I was having a conversation with friend about certainties in life. We were listing out the list of things we were certain of in life and things that we're not so sure. We were making a list, and was asking questions or things we would like to categorize as Certain Certified, Grey Zone and Dead Sure Not Certified. Ok here goes;

1. Best Football(yanks call them soccer!) Player in the world is Steven Gerrard! CC
2. Both of us are Straight and Proper men! CC
3. Man can multitask! DSNC
4. Elizabeth Hurley was still hot! GZ
5. That we wouldn't mind having Lizzie as our gf! CC
6. David Hassleholf needs to shave his chest! CC
7. Lindsay Lohan is crack and needs to start wearing them panties! CC
8. Yours sincerely got a lot of gfs. DSNC
9. Yours sincerely always uses a dumb ass excuses during break-ups! GZ(coz I still think telling the girl you're about to break up with that you love her and that you love another girl at the same time is ethically right. Come on now, she is going to lose the man she loves, a little sweeteners will help!)
10. That we are all alone in the universe! DSNC(Haven't you watched Starship Troopers?)

Ok, there is a lot more in the list but the point is, we can always be sure or certain about something at this moment but things might change dramatically in the next few years. For example, I could not guarantee my friend will not cross dress in the future, that he would steal his wife's under garments and wear them while enticing young men at pubs~yucks! Or that Lindsay Lohan would start to buy them undies and wear them and act normal again once her millions dry up and she realize she needs to grow up. Or both of us would turn down Lizzie if she wants a piece of us in the future; look she is mid forties pushing 50s. We wouldn't mind her now but imagine when she is in her sixties while we were entering our forties...yucks x 13!

This brings it nicely to the case of Lizzie(the asian version). She is 29 this year, a good age for women. She is hot x 12, she is smart(sales manager), she is intelligent and she is getting married soon! She was having some cold feet moments a few week back in regards to her impeding marriage. It seems to her that if she had chosen wrongly her life would end. However deep down she knows Joe(not his real name but who cares?) is a good guy, a responsible guy and a stabilizing factor in her life. Joe also has incredible patience, good manners and a decent education background. Though the good factors were incredibly high, she still has her doubts, insecurities and lots and lots of worries.

So what seems to be the problems then? Is it a love problem? Is it a commitment problem? Is it that Lizzie actually likes another person? Is it Joe is too plain and stable for her? Is it that she will need to give up the other 2 billion guys in this world for him? Is Joe not good enough for her? Or is it pure old before marriage cold feet syndrome that struck her?

I don't know, for once I don't know how to decipher her situation. All I can do as a friend, is to reassure her that marriage is a sacred thing, a contract between two people in love and the binding force for soulmates.
I also assure her that Joe is a good guy, come on, if a guy can love and take all the bull from Lizzie then he must be good. Ol'Jon try to be convincing, trying to be diplomatic and trying to assure Lizzie everything is going to be ok. Truth to be told, I don't know shit what is going to happen to her. In any separation case between couples, Love is not an issue. When 2 people of different background stay together they get to know each other well. And trust me it is not rosy everyday!

Anyway, I just want to point out that there is no certainties in life! If today Lizzie loves Joe and marry him, good for her! But if tomorrow she found out the love had changed then this is call the Uncertainties of Life.
Yes you hear me right, we can try but there is no certainties in life. When you're certain you marry when you're in doubt divorce!

So don't give too much thoughts on your choice in life, because the route you're certain today will be definitely different in the future. Just like how I think being a soldier would be cool at 10 but today I think it is a cack idea....so you have it! Live life at the present, not past not future...but at this moment. If you're dead certain you want that house, you buy it! If you're dead certain you like that car, you get it! If you're dead certain you lust over that girl, you shag her! Live in the present and life is certain!

Remember that!