It was once said that you can judge what type of man a person is during his funeral. If there is a lot of weeping and grieving people at his funeral, he must have been a very good man in his lifetime. If that someone had done great deeds to mankind, have been contributing to the people around him, then God will not want his departure from this world to be a lonely, cold and sparse event.
Thursday, June 21, 2012
Tuesday, May 8, 2012
Why always me?
Lately ol'Jon has been through highs and lows, as a student of the 'calm seas never make good sailors' mantra, ol'Jon tried to manouvere himself clear from the high choppy waves and firmly in charge of his own ship. Sink or Swim, ol'Jon always believe everybody is responsible for their own fate and destiny.
In a space of 2 weeks ol'Jon received a feedback from the Boss that my management skills is not up to par with the top management expectation. ol'Jon is all good in operation level and has an immaculate sales skills and a sense of urgency in my work. Top it up with a good dose of aggresiveness and a penchant for hard work and good effort, it is a very good achievement. BUT....ol'Jon could do a little better in peer to peer relationship, ol'Jon could do a little better in 'accomodating' other colleagues and ol'Jon needed to be much better in mid-term and long-term planning. All the comments were for my 2011 review with my Boss. Being the hot headed @rse ol'Jon are, of course I'm having none of it.
Point by point we rebutted and the general consesus is that Why Me? For example, in the peer to peer relationship, why can't the other managers be in the same wavelength, to buck up and be aggresive as I am? Why Me? Why not point out to them that they have the deficiencies and ol'Jon does not need to find a way to coax them to be better for the greater good of the company.
Also, why should ol'Jon be more 'accomodating' to under performing people in the company? Instead of complaining, why can't they buck up or move out? ol'Jon has this 'take no prisoner' style of work. I argue with facts and truth, so why can't they accept their fault gracefully? Why Me? Why should the great flamboyant ol'Jon be accomodating and choose my words when addressing their deficiencies?
Again, on the mid-term planning and long-term planning, ol'Jon has all the plans in place. So why me? Ok, I have them in plan but not written or executed to a level acceptable, but Why Me? This is not my job anyway, this is the job of my boss(position still vacant). Why ol'Jon have to do the extra mile and risk the wrath of gossips that ol'Jon is aiming for the position? Why me again, ol'Jon asked?
By this point, the negativity outweights the positivity. And a lot of soul searching was done, a SWOT analysis was hastily set up and completed, a 360 feedback for peers, boss and sub-ordinates is in the cards. You see after 1 week of hard thinking and a self reflection, ol'Jon realise something that is shouting out loud to ol'Jon, which needed my attention but ol'Jon was too 'high' to see it. Too 'high' immersing in the praises that was bandied out by the management, too much with the 'fixation' that ol'Jon is much superior to others thus no needing any improvement. Drowning in my own ego and failed to see that to make the next step up, ol'Jon have to have a mindset change.
The minor change came after some self reflection, the major change came after a elongated talk with the CEO, who tell me; "Jon, if the changes have to come from other people it only means that they have a higher potential than you. Do you think you can achieve much more?" It struck me like a sledge hammer. When I refuse to see the need to improve, any advice to improve turns into a WHY ME? arguement with my innerself. When I realise this points, I vow to have a complete mindset change. I'm no longer happy with my current level, I want to move to another level..
And to reach the other level, I must ditch Why Always Me? mindset and embrace the What More Can You Achieve? mindset. If I have the Why Always Me mindset, then stagnatation is the only answer to my professional career. I do not want to be in the same position 3 years from now. With this What More Can I Achieve mentality I'll go higher and fulfil the destiny that my intelligence, talent, aggresiveness and hungriness in me belong to.
So if you find yourself asking Why Always Me? Do a self-reflection and get to know yourself. It is surprising that 95% of people does not know themselves well. Scary numbers but it is true. Once you know yourself, you can set an expectation level. If this is your level, then carry on Why Always Me? or if you're like me and think that you can achieve more, ditch this Why Always Me mindset and embrace the What More Can You Achieve mindset. After all, what is mankind if not for continuos improvement.
Let us see the Jon Ooi 3 years from now! I know it is going to be fun....Why Always Me...never again.
Impossible is Nothing~ Wish me Luck!
In a space of 2 weeks ol'Jon received a feedback from the Boss that my management skills is not up to par with the top management expectation. ol'Jon is all good in operation level and has an immaculate sales skills and a sense of urgency in my work. Top it up with a good dose of aggresiveness and a penchant for hard work and good effort, it is a very good achievement. BUT....ol'Jon could do a little better in peer to peer relationship, ol'Jon could do a little better in 'accomodating' other colleagues and ol'Jon needed to be much better in mid-term and long-term planning. All the comments were for my 2011 review with my Boss. Being the hot headed @rse ol'Jon are, of course I'm having none of it.
Why Always Me??
Argh, I'm having none of it....Why Always Me??
Also, why should ol'Jon be more 'accomodating' to under performing people in the company? Instead of complaining, why can't they buck up or move out? ol'Jon has this 'take no prisoner' style of work. I argue with facts and truth, so why can't they accept their fault gracefully? Why Me? Why should the great flamboyant ol'Jon be accomodating and choose my words when addressing their deficiencies?
Again, on the mid-term planning and long-term planning, ol'Jon has all the plans in place. So why me? Ok, I have them in plan but not written or executed to a level acceptable, but Why Me? This is not my job anyway, this is the job of my boss(position still vacant). Why ol'Jon have to do the extra mile and risk the wrath of gossips that ol'Jon is aiming for the position? Why me again, ol'Jon asked?
If you do not bend down you couldn't even notice these nice little flowers - same with Life..
By this point, the negativity outweights the positivity. And a lot of soul searching was done, a SWOT analysis was hastily set up and completed, a 360 feedback for peers, boss and sub-ordinates is in the cards. You see after 1 week of hard thinking and a self reflection, ol'Jon realise something that is shouting out loud to ol'Jon, which needed my attention but ol'Jon was too 'high' to see it. Too 'high' immersing in the praises that was bandied out by the management, too much with the 'fixation' that ol'Jon is much superior to others thus no needing any improvement. Drowning in my own ego and failed to see that to make the next step up, ol'Jon have to have a mindset change.
This God's creation helped a lot during the 'thinking' period...
The minor change came after some self reflection, the major change came after a elongated talk with the CEO, who tell me; "Jon, if the changes have to come from other people it only means that they have a higher potential than you. Do you think you can achieve much more?" It struck me like a sledge hammer. When I refuse to see the need to improve, any advice to improve turns into a WHY ME? arguement with my innerself. When I realise this points, I vow to have a complete mindset change. I'm no longer happy with my current level, I want to move to another level..
After the 8th glass, it all coming good for me....Why Always Me...no more!
And to reach the other level, I must ditch Why Always Me? mindset and embrace the What More Can You Achieve? mindset. If I have the Why Always Me mindset, then stagnatation is the only answer to my professional career. I do not want to be in the same position 3 years from now. With this What More Can I Achieve mentality I'll go higher and fulfil the destiny that my intelligence, talent, aggresiveness and hungriness in me belong to.
ol'Jon vow not to B1tch about Why Always Me anymore....Now it is What More Can I Achieve?
So if you find yourself asking Why Always Me? Do a self-reflection and get to know yourself. It is surprising that 95% of people does not know themselves well. Scary numbers but it is true. Once you know yourself, you can set an expectation level. If this is your level, then carry on Why Always Me? or if you're like me and think that you can achieve more, ditch this Why Always Me mindset and embrace the What More Can You Achieve mindset. After all, what is mankind if not for continuos improvement.
Let us see the Jon Ooi 3 years from now! I know it is going to be fun....Why Always Me...never again.
Impossible is Nothing~ Wish me Luck!
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